Couples Coaching
With over 25 years of experience, I have developed a structured coaching program designed to help couples reconnect, strengthen their bond, and commit fully to their marriage. This program is built around twelve core tenets—patterns I have seen repeatedly weaken relationships. Each of these will be explored during our 12 coaching sessions, but the primary focus will be on 2-3 principles tailored to the couple’s specific needs.
Every couple receives a planner/guide to track their progress. I firmly believe: If it’s not written down, it’s not happening. This guide isn’t just about accountability—it’s a commitment to action, ensuring both partners take tangible steps toward transformation.
Over the years, I’ve helped countless couples gain clarity, break down barriers, and move forward with intention. Marriage is not about luck or chemistry—it’s about intentional action. When you invest in coaching with me, you are making a decision to reclaim your relationship, and that is the surest path to success.
Twelve Pillars of a Strong Marriage
Marriage is constantly under pressure from modern culture, which promotes comfort over commitment and individualism over unity. True love is not about convenience—it is about choosing each other, every single day.
I guide couples through twelve core principles that serve as the foundation for a lasting and meaningful marriage. These are not nice-to-have ideas—they are non-negotiable truths for any relationship that is built to endure.
The Twelve Pillars:
- Partnership Over Individualism – A marriage is not about “I” but “We.”
- Commitment as a Covenant – Marriage is not a contract to be broken.
- Intimacy Beyond the Physical – Understanding emotional and spiritual connection in sex.
- Parenting as a Team – Strengthening your marriage by unifying your parenting approach.
- Silent Connection – Recognizing that deep connection often happens in the absence of words.
- Financial Unity – Navigating money in marriage as partners, not opponents.
- Trust as the Cornerstone – Emotional security is built on trust.
- Mutual Respect – Honoring each other’s individuality and differences.
- Acts of Love – Small gestures make the biggest impact.
- Forgiveness as a Choice – Loving beyond the hurt.
- Faith as a Foundation – Leaning on faith when nothing else is working.
- Sacrifice and Mercy – How true love requires both.
Who Is This For?
While my work is rooted in Catholic principles, it is not only for Christians. Love, commitment, respect, and sacrifice are universal. You do not need to be religious to benefit from this work—you only need to be willing to fight for your marriage.
Marriage is not a pursuit of comfort but a lifelong commitment to something greater than yourself. It requires perseverance, selflessness, and the courage to stay the course even when the road gets tough.
I love what the apostle Paul once wrote:
“I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.” — 2 Timothy 4:7
Here Paul was referencing his spiritual journey, but the same truth applies to the marital journey. Paul was an athlete and a fighter. I, too, was an athlete and loved running marathons. My marriage reminds me of those races. At the starting line, with your friends and family as your witnesses, it is incredibly exciting, and everyone is rooting for you. Then, as time passes, you begin to feel very alone and exhausted. Met with unforeseen challenges – you hit the wall. Then, by the grace of God, you get a second wind. If you can focus less on your pain, and more on the vision, you will finish the race. You have kept the faith.
A Quick Note About Me
If you’re looking for quick fixes or someone to validate your excuses, I am not the right coach for you.
But if you are willing to step up, take ownership, and fight the good fight, I am your person.
Marriage is not meant to be easy. It is meant to be worth it.
Individual Coaching
Whether you’re seeking change within yourself or your marriage, coaching is about accountability and action. My approach is structured, clear, and designed to keep you moving forward. You don’t just talk about your goals—you commit to them, step by step.
Coaching is ideal if:
- You need structure and guidance to improve your relationship (or yourself).
- You want clear action steps that move you toward success.
- You are willing to do the work and hold yourself accountable.
Therapy: When Healing Is Needed
While coaching focuses on action and results, therapy is about healing. Therapy is appropriate when:
- One or both partners are dealing with trauma or unresolved emotional pain.
- There is a need for deep introspection and psychological support.
- The focus is on emotional recovery rather than structured progress.
Unlike coaching, therapy is less structured and more exploratory, allowing space for processing emotions before moving into action. Whether in individual or couples therapy, my goal is always to provide the support necessary to reach a place of clarity, healing, and readiness for change.
I see both therapy and coaching clients. The distinction is simple: therapy helps you heal; coaching helps you move forward. Some clients transition from therapy to coaching once they are ready for action.
Final Thoughts
Your marriage does not need to be perfect. It needs to be intentional. My role is to challenge, guide, and support you toward a marriage that is strong, enduring, and deeply fulfilling.
Are you ready to do the work?