You’re not just reacting to each other.
You’re reacting to patterns you don’t yet see.
I help couples understand their patterns, regulate their responses, and communicate from what is actually happening, not just what it feels like in the moment.
(Online sessions available)
What’s Actually Happening
Most couples aren’t fighting over the surface issue. A moment occurs, your mind interprets it, your body reacts, and you respond. This process happens so swiftly that it seems automatic.
Over time, it forms a pattern:
- the same conflict
- the same reaction
- and the same outcome.
You’ll learn how to:
- recognize the pattern you both get pulled into
- understand what each reaction is protecting
- slow down conflict before it escalates
- respond instead of react
- rebuild trust through consistent, grounded action
How I Work
I don’t focus only on communication techniques.
We look at:
- what your mind is predicting in conflict
- how your body reacts
- and how those reactions shape your behaviour
Then we slow that down and work at the level where change actually happens.
My work is informed by evidence-based approaches, including Gottman Method Couples Therapy, as well as training in psychology and physiology.
My training includes:
- Registered psychotherapist (CRPO)
- Certified in the Gottman Method for Couples Therapy
- PhD (Interdisciplinary -psychology, education, linguistics, nursing)
- Functional Medicine Certified Practitioner – Medical (FMCP-M)
- Certified RTT Therapist (Marisa Peer)
A Deeper Perspective (Optional)
Marriage Is More Than a Contract—It’s a Covenant.
For those who want it, I integrate a Catholic understanding of marriage as a covenant, grounded in love, responsibility, and forgiveness.
My approach integrates the wisdom of theology with the tools of modern psychology, creating harmony between heart and mind.
(Faith discussion is always optional and guided by you.)
Testimonials
Luella has been instrumental in resolving years of miscommunication between my partner and me. Without her guidance and support, our relationship would not have endured one of the most traumatic incidents any marriage can suffer: infidelity. Luella was patient and caring in our meetings. She taught us communication and coping techniques, which helped each of us understand what had long been missing in our relationship. We practice these lessons daily, and in doing so, we have been able to re-establish a foundation of love and trust. I know we will continue to seek her support and guidance in the future.
Let’s Connect
Initial Consultation (90-minutes)
A structured first session where we identify the patterns driving your situation and clarify what needs to change.
Follow-up Consultation
Ready for the next step?
Schedule your follow-up and keep the clarity flowing.
General Fees for Services
- Initial consultation (90-minute session) $270.00 CAD
- Follow-up (50-minute session) $175.00 CAD
- 3-month commitment (50-minute sessions) $160.00 CAD per session (Contact Dr Jonk)
- Course in Conjugal Love $140.00 CAD