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Luella’s pened thoughts on topics relating to emotional fullfillment and personal achievement. New posts weekly.
Everything We Need Is Right Here Right Now
As I write this week's blog, I sit on a balcony overlooking the Pacific. You could say I 'escaped' from a dark prairie November where the sunlight seemed to be a rare commodity that not even the most wealthy had access to. But if you are anything like me, I instantly...
From Stuck to Thriving: A Journey of Transformation
For today’s entry, I decided to create a story for you. Emily is fictional, but acts as a good representation of the type of clients that find themselves in my office. Enjoy the story. For years, Emily felt trapped. On the surface, she seemed fine—steady job,...
How To Find Your Way Back When Feeling Lost
One cloudy November morning, I felt a wave of melancholy settle over me. I’m usually optimistic, and when I’m not feeling my best, I make it a point to look inward and figure out why.
The Roadmap to Resolving an Unhappy Relationship
As a woman, relationship therapist, and someone married for over 26 years to a man with little emotional attunement, I have an important point to make.
Friendships
If we all had the privilege and joy of having rock-solid friendships, there would be no need to go to therapy. Are you one of the lucky ones with that best friend or group of besties you know you could call and who would be there for you? The friend who would drop...
What’s Your Emotional Vulnerability Risk Profile in Relationships?
When we invest, financial institutions ask about our risk profile - they want to understand our comfort level with taking financial risks. In relationships, we can apply this concept to gauge our emotional risk profile, assessing how open and vulnerable we are with...
I’m done
If you are a woman 40 years or older, you will appreciate the meaning behind these words. If you are a man and have heard these words, you are also very much aware of what happens once these words leave a woman’s mouth. Having a career as a therapist, I can...
People Have It All Wrong When It Comes to Relationships
How often do you hear, “We don’t know how to communicate,” or “We’re having trouble communicating”? I hear it from clients constantly - and I’m tired of it. There’s a big difference between just communicating and communicating effectively. Sure, you can shout at each...
Give Yourself The Many Blessings You Deserve
If you are anything like me, when I think about blessings, I would never think of such a thing as ‘self-blessings'. Being Christian, the only person by whom I might be blessed would be a priest, minister, etc. However, self-blessings are not only a vital part of our...