Conversations with A Gottman Therapist
Here you will find conversations on topics that matter: nutrition, stress, sleep, relationships, movement, and, my favourite topic, habits.
The Two Ways Humans Operate: One Gets Results, The Other Gets You A Hug At Best
Not every conversation advocates for problem-solving or open displays of vulnerability. The only conversations that advocate for these behaviours are those in which change needs to happen. At the business level, management requests a specific performance output....
The Importance of Consistency In Therapy
If I told you the best way to improve your golf game was to get on the course daily or to learn a new language was to speak it daily, you likely wouldn’t blink an eye at those suggestions and possibly respond to me with kindness as you answered: “No kidding, Captain...
Hold Your Ground: The Balance Between Individuality and the Collective
There are various reasons why many individuals report struggling with anxiety. One of the main causes is that of identity. We have certainly seen this through the varied expressions of sexuality and gender. What was once either or, is now placed on a spectrum....
Embracing Realism And Letting Go of Work Life Balance Guilt
Recently, I was invited to present at a national Weekly Wellness meeting at one of our Canadian financial institutions. They contacted me because of my views on creating a work-life balance. Work-life balance does not exist. Instead, we need to focus on harmonizing...
The Gift of Time: Talk Less and Listen More
Whether in the boardroom or the bedroom, the power of active listening is undeniable. By speaking less and truly engaging in active listening, you can unlock significant benefits in your professional interactions. But it doesn’t end there. When it's your turn to...
Love Is The Drug That I Am Thinking Of
Most of you reading this have once felt infatuated with a person. Similarly, you will never forget the first time you set eyes on a current or ex-partner. Sparks ignited, and rocket ships blasted. Your eyes met. Everything else in the room stopped. Your heart skipped...
We All Pretend to Be Someone We Are Not
We all live two lives. We have our work life and our personal lives. You may be the one who likes to live on the edge and blend both by having a midday rendezvous with their receptionist, a colleague, or the nanny. In which case you are mixing business with pleasure....
Grace
Just as you are receiving this message in your inbox this morning, I too have signed up for specific mailers. One of these is a daily mailer from the Frederick Buechner Institute. I love the way that Fred writes. It is difficult for me to describe. His writings are...
A Call To Rebrand Mental Health
I much prefer using the term Emotional Health rather than mental health. It made me curious how the term mental health came about. So, I dived into the research a bit deeper to find out how and why it brings such a bad stigma about it. How the term mental health...