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Make Your Partner a Priority – Betrayal #4
In What Makes Love Last?, Dr. John Gottman describes ten ways partners betray one another. The fourth is forming a coalition against your partner.
When Shame Leads Us Away Instead of Home
For Christians, we are in the midst of Holy Week, as tomorrow begins the Triduum - that is, Holy Thursday, Good Friday, Holy Saturday, and Easter Sunday. Therefore, I am breaking from our series on 10 Ways to Deceive Your Spouse to discuss Judas and Peter’s...
Dishonesty Is Not Kindness – Betrayal #3
Dishonesty is a form of self-protection, not an expression of love, and it gradually and often imperceptibly chips away at trust.
Emotional Betrayal Begins Quietly – Betrayal #2
I appreciate John Gottman’s work on betrayal, especially his explanation of non-sexual betrayal, what many people would call emotional betrayal…
Grade 10 Questions on Discernment
Earlier this week, I spoke to Grade 10 students at St. Mary’s Academy in Winnipeg about discernment.
Ten Ways to Betray Your Spouse or Fiance – Betrayal #1
Betrayal in marriage doesn’t always play out dramatically; it often starts with small changes in loyalty and attention.
Marriage Was Never About What I Was Getting
I have always known that marriage is a kind of dying to self, at least in theory, but this time it really touched me.
Before You Fix Your Spouse, Look in the Mirror
In my work as a family and marriage therapist, the surface argument is rarely the real issue. There is usually a deeper current running underneath the conflict.
What We Ask For
On some days, I listen to the daily homily or the readings, and they go in one ear and out the other. Then there are other days when I actually need to stop and think.