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Selfishness – Betrayal #8
Selfishness in marriage does not always look obvious. So it is worth asking yourself: where am I withholding? Where could I contribute more?
Disrespect – Betrayal #7
How does a simple eye roll escalate an ordinary conversation into a full-blown argument?
Mismatched Sexual Drives in Marriage – Betrayal #6
There is a form of betrayal in marriage that is often ignored for far too long, and it does not always come with obvious conflict.
Knocked, But No One Was Home – Absenteeism – Betrayal #5
Often, what we observe isn’t a deficiency in capacity to love but rather a habitual response pattern that hasn’t been critically examined.
Make Your Partner a Priority – Betrayal #4
In What Makes Love Last?, Dr. John Gottman describes ten ways partners betray one another. The fourth is forming a coalition against your partner.
When Shame Leads Us Away Instead of Home
For Christians, we are in the midst of Holy Week, as tomorrow begins the Triduum - that is, Holy Thursday, Good Friday, Holy Saturday, and Easter Sunday. Therefore, I am breaking from our series on 10 Ways to Deceive Your Spouse to discuss Judas and Peter’s...
Dishonesty Is Not Kindness – Betrayal #3
Dishonesty is a form of self-protection, not an expression of love, and it gradually and often imperceptibly chips away at trust.
Emotional Betrayal Begins Quietly – Betrayal #2
I appreciate John Gottman’s work on betrayal, especially his explanation of non-sexual betrayal, what many people would call emotional betrayal…
Grade 10 Questions on Discernment
Earlier this week, I spoke to Grade 10 students at St. Mary’s Academy in Winnipeg about discernment.