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Luella’s pened thoughts on topics relating to emotional fullfillment and personal achievement. New posts weekly.
Why Smart People Still Do Dumb Things (And What Faith Has to Do With It)
Have you ever met someone with a PhD who can’t seem to navigate basic life decisions? Or someone who’s successful at work but lost when it comes to relationships? I see it all the time—in therapy sessions, in conversations after Mass, even in myself at times. And it...
Mutual Respect
Just as a wife deeply desires to be loved and cherished, a husband yearns for respect. For a man, respect isn't a luxury; it's essential. It fuels his courage, strengthens his ability to protect and provide, and empowers him to overcome challenges. Without it, he can...
Marriage Isn’t a Market Crash—It’s a Long-Term Investment
If you've ever stared down a crumbling portfolio (hello! spring 2025) or weathered a stretch of quiet in your marriage, this post is for you. Because investing and relationships—especially long-term marriage—run on the same principles: patience, consistency, and...
Marriage and the Highest Good
Most couples want a happy, lasting relationship—but deeper than that is a quiet desire for meaning.
Parenting as a Team
Strengthening your marriage by unifying your parenting approach Outside of your commitment to one another, parenting may be the most sacred—and the most testing—arena for real teamwork in marriage. Children thrive when both parents show up—not perfectly, but...
A Marriage Is Not About “I”—But “We”
Why Complementarity Is the Glue That Holds a Marriage Together In a world that glorifies self-sufficiency, it’s easy to forget that the strength of a marriage lies not in sameness, but in sacred difference. This post explores why marriage isn’t about “I” but “We,” and...
Reflections on Conflict: Parallels Between Relationships and National Discourse
This post may take longer than usual to read, but the message is hugely important. If you don’t have time to read through it all, Episode 43 of the Luella Jonk Show (previously Mixing Business With Pleasure—yes, I renamed it AGAIN…hello ADHD) will be available to...
Commitment in Crisis: What “Living Apart Together” Says About Modern Relationships
Recently, I came across an article in Chatelaine titled "I’m Not Single, But I Still Prefer to Live Alone." It details the rising trend of "Living Apart Together" (LAT), where couples maintain intimate relationships without cohabiting. The article presents this as an...
Try to Abstain From This In Marriage
What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word abstinence? Maybe it’s avoiding certain foods or drinks—things you crave but feel guilty about indulging in. But given that this article is about marriage, you might have thought of the phrase: “Absence...