
EPISODE #041
The Self-Help Trap
WITH
Luella Jonk
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Show Notes
In this episode, I’m unpacking why chasing after emotional validation can sometimes do more harm than good. While feeling understood is important, constantly seeking reassurance can keep you in a cycle of dependence rather than growth.
I’ll walk you through:
✅ Why relying too much on validation can weaken your sense of self
✅ The difference between healthy support and emotional crutches
✅ How to build confidence without needing constant affirmation
✅ Why internal stability matters more than external approval
✅ Practical steps to shift from seeking validation to self-trust
Whether you’re struggling with relationship insecurities, feeling unheard, or just relying too much on others to feel okay, this episode offers a perspective shift that could make all the difference. True confidence doesn’t come from getting endless reassurance—it comes from knowing you don’t always need it.
🔔 And as always, while independence is key, meaningful connections and the right support system can help you grow in ways you can’t always do alone.
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