
EPISODE #055
Therapy Is Hard Work – Why It Hurts But Heals
WITH
Luella Jonk
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Show Notes
In this solo episode, I get brutally honest about what therapy should actually accomplish – and spoiler alert: it’s not about making you feel warm and fuzzy. Inspired by a candid conversation with a long-term client who’s been seeing me for 8 years, I break down the real reasons people invest in therapy and why so many are doing it wrong.
I’ll walk you through:
✅ Why objectivity matters more than validation (and why your therapist shouldn’t be your cheerleader)
✅ How accountability in therapy creates lasting change versus endless venting sessions
✅ The uncomfortable truth about why real growth requires sitting in your hurt
✅ Why prevention is key – and how therapy is like preventive medicine for your emotional health
✅ The difference between a therapist and your grandmother (hint: one should challenge you)
✅ How our “me-first” culture is destroying relationships and why therapy should push back against that
I also dive into the modern distractions we use to avoid looking at ourselves – from endless scrolling to background noise – and why being comfortable with silence is crucial for real self-awareness. Whether you’re considering therapy, currently in therapy, or wondering why your sessions aren’t creating change, this episode will challenge how you think about the therapeutic process.
🔔 Remember: Real therapy isn’t about feeling good in the moment – it’s about becoming the person who can love your neighbor as yourself, even when it’s hard.
If you’re ready for a therapist who won’t just appease you, I’m accepting new clients. But fair warning – we’re going to do the uncomfortable work together.
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