We all worry, but for some of us, it happens more often than not. The first thing you should do is not overanalyze it. You can reflect on why it’s stirring in you today – but keep it to a two-minute exercise because you ultimately do not know the answer. Furthermore, it doesn’t really matter where it’s coming from – what’s more important is to surrender yourself to it.
For example, I am personally experiencing some angst in my life. On the outside, I remain stoic and strong, but on the inside, I am crying. Additionally, the body often speaks louder than our thoughts, as my digestion is completely off. No matter what I eat, I don’t feel right. For some people, their sleep is entirely disrupted, their complexion feels attacked, or their hair is falling out.
When it comes to dealing with anxiety, it might be helpful to think of it as a process – something you can practice working through. I don’t think any of us will ever truly master it.
So, the next time you have thoughts of doubt, fear, and worry entering your mind, try this practice: start by recognising the information you are telling yourself, or that someone is telling you. Notice – you must stay present for this to effectively help you conquer your emotions, without letting your limbic system intervene and sabotage your ability to regulate them.
- Information (what is happening in front of me, these words being spoken)
- Interpretation (Is this safe? Is this real? Is it good? bad? – What emotions are stirring inside you?)
- Identity (Who am I? What does this information or scenario make me feel about myself? What is it telling me?) Hint – it is usually untrue, but your guilt and shame tell you it is true.
- Intent (Based on this information, understanding its falsehood… what should I do right now?)
- Initiative (Now take action) Hint: which is usually NO action. Breathe in and breathe out, and do not react.
And, by the way, if you think you’re totally on your game and plan to master this so you’re worry-free for the rest of your life, think again. There are some real challenges you might be currently facing or will eventually encounter, which could send you into another tizzy.
However, the more you practice this, the better you’ll get. When the next 2X4 hits you right in the face, you’ll react better and find peace more quickly.
Lastly, I want to thank all my subscribers, especially those who take the time to read my posts and don’t just hit delete. I also appreciate your patience. I know I’ve been sounding a bit too preachy lately, and I don’t want to come across as a spiritual adviser rather than a therapist. Still, I can’t help but share my personal experiences.
I have found immense joy amidst pain as I grow closer to God. And how can I not share this with you? I know He doesn’t show any special favour towards me. He can do the same for you.