A Marriage That Means More
Most couples want a happy, lasting relationship—but deeper than that is a quiet desire for meaning. We long to be known, loved, and to live a life that matters. In many ways, marriage is one of the most powerful places where that longing shows up.
Marriage isn’t just about being happy together. It’s about helping each other grow into someone more grounded, generous, wise, and whole. You could even say that marriage, when approached with intention, becomes a path to the highest form of good. Not just pleasure. Not just peace. But purpose.
Every time you choose to listen instead of defend, to repair instead of retreat, or to stay when it would be easier to avoid, you’re shaping something sacred between you. You’re becoming people who know how to love in the way the world needs most: with patience, humility, and courage.
Today I am giving you homework.
Reflection Questions
Take some time to reflect separately, then share your answers together.
- How have I grown as a person through our relationship?
- What have I learned about real love—not romantic love, but enduring love—since we’ve been together?
- How do we support each other’s growth, even when it’s uncomfortable or inconvenient?
- Are we focused more on comfort, or on building something meaningful together?
For Couples to Consider Together
- What values or guiding principles do we want our relationship to reflect?
- What does it look like to support each other not just emotionally, but in becoming better people?
- What small acts of love or sacrifice (daily or weekly) help us stay aligned with our highest goals?
A Simple Invitation.
You’re not just building a life. You’re building a legacy of love—one that has the power to shape how your children love, how you face hardship, and how you leave a mark on the world. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to stay open to love, to growth, and to something greater than yourselves.
My inspiration to write this comes from my study of Fulton Sheen’s work. He was an American Bishop and a professor of theology. He once wrote, “One cannot tie two sticks together without something outside of the sticks. Love is a triune, or it dies.”
This Bishop was trying to teach that in our pursuit of all that is good, true, and beautiful—our pursuit of happiness and finding all that is meaningful in life—we can’t do it without pursuing God. So, everything that I stated above—everything you are doing for your spouse—you are doing it to become closer to Him. You are doing it for love. You might think you are doing it because it feels good, but because God is love and God is in itself is good – you are doing it to be closer to Him… you just don’t know it. 🤔