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Luella’s pened thoughts on topics relating to emotional fullfillment and personal achievement. New posts weekly.
Who I Am and My View of Relationships
I have always loved to write; it is a wonderful means of processing feelings. I started writing my book about a month ago. I am trying to write for it daily, but it is not possible all the time. I feel blessed on those days, however, as it is a project of love. I...
Who am I, Really?
Have you ever asked yourself that question? If you reached 40+ years, chances are you have. Who am I and why am I here? Maybe you have even read the classic Man’s Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl. In this book, Dr. Frankl described his experiences inside the Nazi...
Couples Were Sent to Me
When I started my studies as a psychotherapist many moons ago, I did not feel drawn to work with couples for three reasons: Couples therapy has a bad reputation for not working. Who wants to work with conflict? My own relationship was far from perfect, so who am I to...
Why I Became Obsessed with the Gottmans
The Gottman Method of Couple Counselling is the type of counselling I was trained in and, frankly, fell in love with. The photo above was from a workshop I attended in Seattle on the topic of Couples and Addiction Recovery many moons ago. I attended numerous...
What to Keep in Mind when Searching for a Therapist?
I often get asked the question, if I am searching for a therapist, what is the most important thing to keep in mind? Here is my advice. There is no ‘one most important thing.’ I could tell you that connection is the most important thing, but being deeply connected may...
The Most Important Decision of your Life.
Personally, I feel this is the most important decision of your life. The ripple effects are immense, to say the least. Your future DNA, your legacy, and your heritage are dictated by this decision. That is, if you choose to have children - but for purposes of this...
Is Your Partner Willing to Do The Work?
Recently a man reached out to me primarily to better his relationship with his son. He separated from his spouse a couple of years ago when his son was 13. He and his ex have a good 'texting' relationship and are co-parenting quite well. When I asked him further about...
Trauma is in Your Tissues
This post is for those who feel they need to go to therapy forever because of the trauma they have experienced. The good news is that you no longer need your therapist on redial. The bad news is that your trauma lives within your tissues. I had a client call this week...
Fake relationships with others (including yourself)
Many of us feel fake when it comes to our relationships. Relationship with ourselves and our relationship with partners. On the outside, everything looks great...but on the inside, it is often not the same. I was extremely reluctant to begin posting on social media,...