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Luella’s pened thoughts on topics relating to emotional fullfillment and personal achievement. New posts weekly.
The Most Important Decision of your Life.
Personally, I feel this is the most important decision of your life. The ripple effects are immense, to say the least. Your future DNA, your legacy, and your heritage are dictated by this decision. That is, if you choose to have children - but for purposes of this...
Is Your Partner Willing to Do The Work?
Recently a man reached out to me primarily to better his relationship with his son. He separated from his spouse a couple of years ago when his son was 13. He and his ex have a good 'texting' relationship and are co-parenting quite well. When I asked him further about...
Trauma is in Your Tissues
This post is for those who feel they need to go to therapy forever because of the trauma they have experienced. The good news is that you no longer need your therapist on redial. The bad news is that your trauma lives within your tissues. I had a client call this week...
Fake relationships with others (including yourself)
Many of us feel fake when it comes to our relationships. Relationship with ourselves and our relationship with partners. On the outside, everything looks great...but on the inside, it is often not the same. I was extremely reluctant to begin posting on social media,...
People Pleasers
Most women who come to see me for therapy and coaching have some level of people-pleasing tendency in them. Not a surprise for most of you to hear this, right? Overdoing it overdoes it. In other words, when you give too much, you become depleted. When you become...
Why Shifting to a Positive Mindset Often Isn’t Enough When In a Difficult Marriage
Positive thinking: something we are told we should be doing more. Don’t like the weather? You should be thinking positively, it could be much worse! Don’t like your husband right now? At least you have a husband! Let’s be honest, for the most part – these helpful tips...
Simplicity
There is simplicity, and there is minimalism. I used to strive for minimalism, but now I realize that this has the potential to keep you in a lack mindset. A lack mindset has the connotation of never having enough, which is also a great self-reflection. Are YOU ever...
How More Limits Bring More Laughter
I am not sure if it is just me or every other woman out there that appreciates humour and laughter in their life. I was talking to one of my clients about this the other day. I had noticed something different about her. Her face was not as tight, and the muscles...
Why Positive Thoughts are Not the Answer
Have you ever felt like positive thinking is not working...especially when you felt dismissed by your partner. Maybe you are in a relationship right now where you feel every time you want to have a positive exchange with the person, it takes a swift left turn off your...