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Luella’s pened thoughts on topics relating to emotional fullfillment and personal achievement. New posts weekly.
A Post About Relationships, Forgiveness, Resentment, and Especially Parenting
Some lessons take years to learn. Others keep revisiting you until you finally open your hands and say, "Fiat." Let it be done unto me. I’ve spoken and written a lot about resentment, about control, about the quiet bitterness that grows when our expectations go unmet....
Marriage, According to St. Paul: The Way Marriage Was Always Meant To Be
Most people don’t think of St. Paul when they think of marriage. It’s probably because he never married. He was a missionary, a martyr, a theologian. But if you’ve ever been married long enough to know what real love costs, then you’ve already lived many of his most...
The Why Of Therapy
Let’s talk about therapy. Why do people go to therapy, and why do some drop off while others decide to continue?
When Life Doesn’t Make Sense: How Faith and Common Sense Save Relationships
Maybe it’s a health scare, a job loss, a partner who drops the ball—again. And even though you’re doing all the “right” things it still doesn’t add up.
When Respect Returns to the Home: A Common-Sense Case for Sacred Order in Marriage
We live in a time when men's and women’s roles have blurred. Young men are questioning their identities, and marriages are becoming increasingly transactional (What can you do for me?). So it’s no surprise that more and more women are tired, men are confused, and the...
The Discipline Deficient Home: Small Sacrifices That Heal Relationships
If your marriage feels dull, or your home feels distant, it might not be because anything is wrong. It might be because nothing is sacred.
The Discernment Process in Action: A Health Decision Case Study
Discernment in health, as in any area of life, is rarely about finding a perfect formula. It is about moving forward with peace and humility, resisting the pressure to control every detail.
The Middle Is the Hardest Place to Be
Ever notice how easy it is to swing to extremes? To say “I’m done” or “I’ll do it all myself”? Whether in parenting, marriage, or managing our emotions, we often crave certainty, but end up bypassing wisdom. This post reflects on how living in the middle—the space of...
Why Smart People Still Do Dumb Things (And What Faith Has to Do With It)
Have you ever met someone with a PhD who can’t seem to navigate basic life decisions? Or someone who’s successful at work but lost when it comes to relationships? I see it all the time—in therapy sessions, in conversations after Mass, even in myself at times. And it...