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A Marriage Is Not About “I”—But “We”
Why Complementarity Is the Glue That Holds a Marriage Together In a world that glorifies self-sufficiency, it’s easy to forget that the strength of a marriage lies not in sameness, but in sacred difference. This post explores why marriage isn’t about “I” but “We,” and...
Reflections on Conflict: Parallels Between Relationships and National Discourse
This post may take longer than usual to read, but the message is hugely important. If you don’t have time to read through it all, Episode 43 of the Luella Jonk Show (previously Mixing Business With Pleasure—yes, I renamed it AGAIN…hello ADHD) will be available to...
Commitment in Crisis: What “Living Apart Together” Says About Modern Relationships
Recently, I came across an article in Chatelaine titled "I’m Not Single, But I Still Prefer to Live Alone." It details the rising trend of "Living Apart Together" (LAT), where couples maintain intimate relationships without cohabiting. The article presents this as an...
Try to Abstain From This In Marriage
What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word abstinence? Maybe it’s avoiding certain foods or drinks—things you crave but feel guilty about indulging in. But given that this article is about marriage, you might have thought of the phrase: “Absence...
Rely More on Your Heart and Soul (Spirituality) Than Your Head (Psychology)
We often consider therapy the first step to finding happiness and fulfillment, or we turn to self-help books when we want to become better people. None of this is wrong. Heck, I have a library of self-help books, which did help—to some extent.
March is for Sex
Now, before you get excited like bunnies in the springtime, I anticipate that you may be somewhat disappointed with what I have to say about sex as an act of love, especially if you are a man.
Virtuous Living Within Marriage
Marriage: The Teacher of Virtue Marriage doesn’t gently nudge us toward patience, humility, or self-restraint—it shoves us into moments where we must practice them. And in those moments, when we choose virtue over vice, something shifts—not just in our marriages but...
What It Truly Means To Love
With Valentine’s Day now past, the roses start to droop ever so slightly, and lovely dinners and decadent chocolates have now formed a nice bit of cushioning around our hips and bellies, let’s talk a bit about the word LOVE. Up until last year, in 2024, I mainly...
Characteristics To Look for in a Good Partner
Here are the four characteristics I feel are important to embody to be a good partner: Humility, Curiosity, Emotional Wellness, and a keen awareness of your Absolute Values. I will use the analogy of a house when referencing these traits. (I am no builder - but I love...