Okay, I must apologize right now because you might have expected me to talk about habits in this post, and I did in fact have it all ready, but felt it was more pertinent to make this post today instead.
There are a few reasons, but I think we can all agree that we are feeling a tiny bit better about the current situation we are in? So that is my point of stating Hope in the title.
The Reflection piece comes in because I happened to look at my post entitled New Year = New You back in January. In this post I start off by saying, “There are so many things that I am excited for in 2020. I have never felt so excited in my life about the decade ahead, and I want you to feel this same excitement with me”.
“There are so many things that I am excited for in 2020. I have never felt so excited in my life about the decade ahead, and I want you to feel this same excitement with me”.
Now your initial response might be “Ha! Look at where that got you Luella.”
Fact is, it wasn’t just me that stated these words, I heard many around me say the same, and it was contagious. So, are we all a bunch of optimists with our heads in the sand? I argue and will continue to argue differently. Why ? Because both you and I know the power of thought.
I now encourage you to read on because below is a response that I wrote to one of my readers who did respond to the previous Happy New Year post. He challenged my thoughts and so the discussion unfolded.
I am sharing this because we are constantly challenged in our lives and it takes a lot of mental effort in those moments to align ourselves with what is most important to us.
Whenever you want to change a negative belief, it’s vital you replace it with something more aligned with the life you want, and stay connected to why it’s important.
And with that, you will see how the above statement is going to be a continuation of next week and further posts about changing the negative beliefs we experience at times of stress, which is the foundation of any habit change or addictive behaviour.
Blog Readers: When reading the following – the black and bold font is from the original post, the amethyst font is my client’s response to the post, and the italicized font is My response to His response. Enjoy the discussion.
The peace of this moment is all we can ask for right now.
“Not true. In fact totally unbelievable. For example, why can’t we ask for our mother to be cured of cancer?”
We can ask… but whom are we asking? The Universe? God? Buddha? Sure… but we can’t make our happiness in the moment about whether or not our mom will survive cancer. We have no control over this – now your head is living in the future. You are happy right now in the moment. Why bombard that with worry about something you honestly cannot control? You are likely creating a story in your head at that moment that is not centered on a promising upcoming experience.
Happiness is you right now, in this present moment. You are absolutely perfect just the way you are.
“Incredibly untrue. We are none of us perfect now or ever. What we can be is satisfied with what we are.”
What is perfection then? The idea of perfection is different for everyone. This is because our ideas/thoughts are based on experiences. If you do not think you are perfect just as you are right now, then it is likely based on past experiences, social media, or society. You actually are perfect.
It is not when I have [———] I will be happy. It is when I am happy I will have [———].
The only way I can answer that is to say that ’that is your perspective’, and it is a sad one. Happiness is not as much as a feeling or thought as it is an energy, emotion, or intention. It is when you have a sense of abundance no matter what you have or who you are with. I see it as simply existing in nature. Such as a squirrel, bird or an apple tree. The apple tree is abundant. It doesn’t always have apples, some seasons more than others, but it keeps producing, it doesn’t hoard its apples as it might be ‘worried or anxious’. It is simply moving through the seasons of life. It is perfect in every way, at every moment. If it begins to lack life, then it may be time to return back to its roots. When you are in a flow or a state of hormesis, your energy is positive.
For example, it is not when I ‘lose more weight, get the promotion’ I will ‘be healthy, feel satisfied, get the man of my dreams’… It is when I am healthy, accept myself as I am right now… ‘I will lose weight, etc. etc.’
How is this absurd? If you follow a lifestyle prescription (which is what I strive to prescribe to my clients), then it will occur. How can you argue the fact that if one eats healthfully, manages stress with the right coping mechanisms, adding movement in their life, making sleep a priority, and tending their relationships with true connection, good things will not come out of this? I beg to differ. It is what I described earlier. When you are in a flow, you gain abundance in multiple aspects in life.
That concludes the discussion. I hope you enjoyed reading the different interpretations of life. To me, life is a blank canvas or sheet of paper open in front of us, and the rest is Unwritten.