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Luella’s pened thoughts on topics relating to emotional fullfillment and personal achievement. New posts weekly.
How to Repair After an Affair
Hopefully none of you will need to use this information, but for those couples who do, please keep reading. As a Gottman Level 3 trained therapist, I know a lot about what makes marriages work and what does not. I understand how couples distance themselves and how...
Stop Telling Yourself Lies
The lie I have been telling myself for a long time is, “I love to cook’. Truth be told… I HATE COOKING. There you have it. Black and white, dead honest. I have been seemingly torturing myself for years, trying to convince myself I do like to cook. But gosh, it feels...
Steps to Bring More Joy in Your Life
The formula to bring more joy in your life is super simple. Here it is. Move away from things that cause you distaste and do more things that bring you joy. How is that for some mind-blowing insight? As you can see, you don’t need a PhD to figure this out. So why do...
Stop Making it So Personal
I don’t normally plan my posts. When I allow my mind to wander, it plans my posts for me. The title ‘stop making it so personal’ is what that voice in my head often speaks to me, both on a personal level and for all the complainers around me. Hey, not to say I too can...
Why do we stay stuck?
With a new year shortly around the corner I think a lot of us like the idea of starting anew or approaching the year with a fresh start. I felt it would be appropriate to write about ‘getting out of a rut’ and building new habits in 2022. First, a little note about...
It is okay to follow a trend, but don’t forget your own unique self
When you press rewind on your tape recording of life, do you notice how you may have branched off and explored another faculty of yourself only to later realize it was possibly not the best decision? There is nothing wrong with this and, in fact, I think it is great....
The Best Ways of Releasing Trauma
I recently read one in five Americans have experienced some degree of sexual abuse as a child. Even as a therapist, that statistic shocked me. Yet, even though sexual abuse is more common than we want to realize, it is by far only one of many forms of trauma...
New Ways of Dealing with Stress
By now I think we have all heard something about the gut/brain connection. That is, how the food you eat affects your thoughts and emotions and how your thoughts and emotions affect the health of your gut. How is this possible? There are a few ways. One of the main...
What to do When You Fear Someone You Love has Distanced Themselves from You
First, please take note of the choice of words within the title, ‘when you fear’. This is an important distinction to make from, ‘when someone you love has distanced themselves from you’. Hence, this is the crux of this post. Fear is the basis of stress and is often...