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Luella’s pened thoughts on topics relating to emotional fullfillment and personal achievement. New posts weekly.
New Season; New Way of Thinking | Part 1
We often hear about doing a detox in the springtime and flushing all the gunk out of our bodies. But do we do that with our minds? I think this desperately needs to become a practice, and there is no better time to start doing it. What do I mean by a detox of the...
Who a Woman Is and What She Wants
I have had this energy about me for the last several days surrounding who women are meant to represent, what they thrive off of and what they need, want, and desire. Ironically, as I typed out the title of this random blog post I also google-searched ‘International...
Facing That Inner Critic: It Is All About Stepping Out From Behind The Bushes
This post is a continuation of last week’s post on What Type of Self Critic Are You? Thus, it may be helpful for you to read that post first (however, not entirely necessary). Let’s face it, we ALL HAVE FEARS about being judged by others. Even the most highly...
What Type of Self-Critic Are You?
As a therapist I see a lot of people who are self-critical. Throughout the years I've come to identify two types of self critics. There is no literature that I could find describing the two types, so I simply dubbed these types as overt self-critics and covert...
How I Used Atomic Habits in My Own Life
Realizing that most of my clients have some habits that they are proud of and others that they hate, I became more and more curious over the years. Habit formation/change is a big deal and I was interested in learning about the research that’s been done on it. I...
How to Repair After an Affair
Hopefully none of you will need to use this information, but for those couples who do, please keep reading. As a Gottman Level 3 trained therapist, I know a lot about what makes marriages work and what does not. I understand how couples distance themselves and how...
Stop Telling Yourself Lies
The lie I have been telling myself for a long time is, “I love to cook’. Truth be told… I HATE COOKING. There you have it. Black and white, dead honest. I have been seemingly torturing myself for years, trying to convince myself I do like to cook. But gosh, it feels...
Steps to Bring More Joy in Your Life
The formula to bring more joy in your life is super simple. Here it is. Move away from things that cause you distaste and do more things that bring you joy. How is that for some mind-blowing insight? As you can see, you don’t need a PhD to figure this out. So why do...
Stop Making it So Personal
I don’t normally plan my posts. When I allow my mind to wander, it plans my posts for me. The title ‘stop making it so personal’ is what that voice in my head often speaks to me, both on a personal level and for all the complainers around me. Hey, not to say I too can...