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Luella’s pened thoughts on topics relating to emotional fullfillment and personal achievement. New posts weekly.
Should I Stay or Should I Go?
If you’re like me, when you hear or read these words, you probably think of the song by The Clash. But that’s not what this post is about, I promise. For the last few days I have been busy creating a Master Class called Question your Connection, which centers around...
My Trip to Europe
I recently travelled to Europe, and if hearing about that sounds like something you’d be interested in, read on. I’ll tell you about the many highs and a handful of lows. If you don’t have time to read but are still interested, check out episode 25 of my podcast, I...
New Season; New Way of Thinking | Part 2
In last week's post, I outlined the initial steps you need to take in order to gain a better sense of self-awareness. This week I want to shed some light on the power of imagination and attention as a bridge towards reaching a new conceptulaization of self. I, like...
New Season; New Way of Thinking | Part 1
We often hear about doing a detox in the springtime and flushing all the gunk out of our bodies. But do we do that with our minds? I think this desperately needs to become a practice, and there is no better time to start doing it. What do I mean by a detox of the...
Who a Woman Is and What She Wants
I have had this energy about me for the last several days surrounding who women are meant to represent, what they thrive off of and what they need, want, and desire. Ironically, as I typed out the title of this random blog post I also google-searched ‘International...
Facing That Inner Critic: It Is All About Stepping Out From Behind The Bushes
This post is a continuation of last week’s post on What Type of Self Critic Are You? Thus, it may be helpful for you to read that post first (however, not entirely necessary). Let’s face it, we ALL HAVE FEARS about being judged by others. Even the most highly...
What Type of Self-Critic Are You?
As a therapist I see a lot of people who are self-critical. Throughout the years I've come to identify two types of self critics. There is no literature that I could find describing the two types, so I simply dubbed these types as overt self-critics and covert...
How I Used Atomic Habits in My Own Life
Realizing that most of my clients have some habits that they are proud of and others that they hate, I became more and more curious over the years. Habit formation/change is a big deal and I was interested in learning about the research that’s been done on it. I...
How to Repair After an Affair
Hopefully none of you will need to use this information, but for those couples who do, please keep reading. As a Gottman Level 3 trained therapist, I know a lot about what makes marriages work and what does not. I understand how couples distance themselves and how...