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What to Keep in Mind when Searching for a Therapist?

What to Keep in Mind when Searching for a Therapist?

I often get asked the question, if I am searching for a therapist, what is the most important thing to keep in mind? Here is my advice. There is no ‘one most important thing.’ I could tell you that connection is the most important thing, but being deeply connected may...
Reflecting Back on Your Relationship

Reflecting Back on Your Relationship

You will note stages, but I am not talking about 1. we got married, 2. bought a house, 3. had kids…that is all sequential and doesn’t require memory, recall, or feelings. I mean something much more meaningful:1. The first time you felt hurt deeply by your...
Drawing a Line in the Sand

Drawing a Line in the Sand

I prefer this phrase when referring to setting limits in personal relationships over the term boundary. I am not sure why exactly; I think it is because boundary sounds so divisive. There is too much division in the world already, we don’t need more. To me,...
Thinking Less and Feeling More

Thinking Less and Feeling More

Have you ever heard of the term ‘ what resists persists’? If someone tells you that you cannot have something, that is all you want. If you are trying to think of a word, it will not enter your mind. You cannot ‘will’ it away. When one focuses...
I Start to Spiral

I Start to Spiral

I hear the following often: ‘ and then I start to spiral’. In summary, women are telling me that they find themselves in a helpless and uncontrollable position. They tell me their mind takes over and thus so do their behaviours. The behaviours that follow...