Have you ever heard of the term ‘ what resists persists’? If someone tells you that you cannot have something, that is all you want. If you are trying to think of a word, it will not enter your mind. You cannot ‘will’ it away. When one focuses...
Most couples think it is about communication. ‘ I need you to talk to me’ or ‘ I need you to tell me you love me’. ‘I need you to text me to ask me how I am feeling or how my day is going.’ Do you understand what is wrong with those...
I love John Gottman’s work on betrayals in general, but especially in relation to non-sexual betrayal, or what many of you might call emotional betrayal. He makes it super simple to distinguish between what is platonic and what is not. There is no such thing as a...
I want to specifically speak about how resentment in relationships is not only tortuous towards your marriage but to yourself. It is very common to have couples coming to see me after years of built-up resentment. Can you mend a relationship after years of resentment?...
Many of us would love to call ourselves trustworthy, but are we? And do we trust our partners? Do we even trust ourselves? What if we find ourselves one day discovering that we have stepped into the chasm of betrayal by our partner. Now what? Would it be a deal...
