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Luella’s pened thoughts on topics relating to emotional fullfillment and personal achievement. New posts weekly.
Falling In Love With Yourself Again
For those of you who need to fall in love with yourself a little more…rather than spend your days pleasing others, this is for you. I love a specific piece of writing from Frederick Buechner, where he describes how loving yourself is like loving your neighbour, but...
The Gift of Therapy
Have you ever thought of giving the gift of therapy? A way of opening the door for a loved one who may not otherwise have accessed this wonderful opportunity to look within? If you would like to do this for someone else, reach out to me and let me know who you feel...
How to Prepare for a Difficult Conversation
Business partners conduct good business by removing the emotion and bringing in more logic. One could even argue it is not logic, but PSYCHOlogic. Such as an Olympic athlete would do to achieve success, you focus on your goal. In relationships, your goal is to reach a...
Why You Need to Bring More ‘Work’ Home From the Office
Most committed couples (common-law, married) treat their current partners with less respect than their business colleagues. That is just the plain truth. Often, when couples want to part ways but have no temporary place to go (family member, friend's couch), I...
Who I Am and My View of Relationships
I have always loved to write; it is a wonderful means of processing feelings. I started writing my book about a month ago. I am trying to write for it daily, but it is not possible all the time. I feel blessed on those days, however, as it is a project of love. I...
Who am I, Really?
Have you ever asked yourself that question? If you reached 40+ years, chances are you have. Who am I and why am I here? Maybe you have even read the classic Man’s Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl. In this book, Dr. Frankl described his experiences inside the Nazi...
Couples Were Sent to Me
When I started my studies as a psychotherapist many moons ago, I did not feel drawn to work with couples for three reasons: Couples therapy has a bad reputation for not working. Who wants to work with conflict? My own relationship was far from perfect, so who am I to...
Why I Became Obsessed with the Gottmans
The Gottman Method of Couple Counselling is the type of counselling I was trained in and, frankly, fell in love with. The photo above was from a workshop I attended in Seattle on the topic of Couples and Addiction Recovery many moons ago. I attended numerous...
What to Keep in Mind when Searching for a Therapist?
I often get asked the question, if I am searching for a therapist, what is the most important thing to keep in mind? Here is my advice. There is no ‘one most important thing.’ I could tell you that connection is the most important thing, but being deeply connected may...