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Luella’s pened thoughts on topics relating to emotional fullfillment and personal achievement. New posts weekly.
What Losing Yourself as a Woman Means to Me
I believe most women can relate to a time when they lost the essence of who they are or what they stand for due to their external situation. We begin to struggle and doubt ourselves and allow for the separation to continue; the division within ourselves. We move away...
Thinking Less and Feeling More
Have you ever heard of the term ' what resists persists'? If someone tells you that you cannot have something, that is all you want. If you are trying to think of a word, it will not enter your mind. You cannot 'will' it away. When one focuses too much on thought, and...
Most couples think it is about communication
Most couples think it is about communication. ' I need you to talk to me' or ' I need you to tell me you love me'. 'I need you to text me to ask me how I am feeling or how my day is going.' Do you understand what is wrong with those statements? The words " I need" are...
Healing from Affairs
I love John Gottman’s work on betrayals in general, but especially in relation to non-sexual betrayal, or what many of you might call emotional betrayal. He makes it super simple to distinguish between what is platonic and what is not. There is no such thing as a...
Resentment
I want to specifically speak about how resentment in relationships is not only tortuous towards your marriage but to yourself. It is very common to have couples coming to see me after years of built-up resentment. Can you mend a relationship after years of resentment?...
Emotional Affair
Many of us would love to call ourselves trustworthy, but are we? And do we trust our partners? Do we even trust ourselves? What if we find ourselves one day discovering that we have stepped into the chasm of betrayal by our partner. Now what? Would it be a deal...
Welcome to my blog
My room is a place where you will learn to build better relationships, change habits and get rid of anxiety. So much of how we manage our lives is based on habits. Habits of thought turn into habits of action and behaviour. Chances are you came to my site because you...
I Start to Spiral
I hear the following often: ' and then I start to spiral'. In summary, women are telling me that they find themselves in a helpless and uncontrollable position. They tell me their mind takes over and thus so do their behaviours. The behaviours that follow are not...
You Can’t Talk Your Spouse out of an Addiction
If your partner is struggling with drug abuse, normally just talking to him or her isn't enough. I see it over and over that partners seem to live on 'hope' for so long before finally being able to draw a line in the sand. Normally separation unfolds. Whether or not...