Conversations with A Gottman Therapist
Here you will find conversations on topics that matter: nutrition, stress, sleep, relationships, movement, and, my favourite topic, habits.
Holding ourselves accountable to simplify
It’s common for clients to come into my office and tell me how they just want peace and simplicity in their lives. They are tired of the daily grind. When clients share how they want to simplify, I challenge them and ask “What steps have been taken towards...
Is it possible to balance our work and personal lives?
I am excited to head into May as we say goodbye to the grays of winter and hello to the bright greens of spring and summer. Yet I do also hold some melancholy as I will miss the silence, peace, and solitude that the winter season brings us. The winter months call out...
Getting Tested for Dopamine Deficiency, Adult ADHD, And What To Do About It.
This entry is an expression of my own experiences and clients’ experiences surrounding adult Attention Deficit and Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). I have not researched the topic to any great extent except for reading and listening to a few books and podcasts. However,...
Practising Self-Love Boundaries By Trusting Yourself More
I don't know about you, but I sometimes envision God looking down at me from the heavens and laughing hysterically. She or He is nodding his head back and forth, saying, "Oh, Luella...you poor thing, if only you would just..." Me: Trust myself more? God: Yes. How many...
What Body Shaming Does for You
Micro Problem linked to their dream goal: Hating your body or even parts of your body is a recipe for a joyless life for both you and your lifetime partner. Therefore men have the running joke “Never tell your wife you look fat in that dress” or “Never tell her why...
Overcoming Persistent Relationship Challenges: Why Some Problems Persist and How to Move Forward
Most couples within a long-term relationship will be able to list at least one perpetual problem to which they seem to never find a solution. There is usually an ‘underlying current’ streaming below the relationship that is the basis for the conflicts. For example,...
Scared to be Alone but Not Wanting to Leave the Home
The baby boomer generation (born between the years of 1946 and 1964) has caused a considerable rise in 55+ and assisted living residences to accommodate the elderly moving out of their primary homes. But how about the baby boomers who don’t want to leave their primary...
How to Help Your Kids Emotionally, Mentally, and Spiritually
Want to ensure your kids will grow up to be happy, successful adults? Do you also want to ensure they become confident individuals? Do you remind them that kindness to themselves is just as important to those they meet? Perhaps you dream of them being the athlete you...
Work Life Balance
I don’t know about you…but I have always felt to be a failure at this. It has caused me to be in a cycle of shame. It also made me question my values. In one sense, my values are founded in everything related to family, such as emotional connection and nurturing....