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Luella’s pened thoughts on topics relating to emotional fullfillment and personal achievement. New posts weekly.
Friendships
If we all had the privilege and joy of having rock-solid friendships, there would be no need to go to therapy. Are you one of the lucky ones with that best friend or group of besties you know you could call and who would be there for you? The friend who would drop...
What’s Your Emotional Vulnerability Risk Profile in Relationships?
When we invest, financial institutions ask about our risk profile - they want to understand our comfort level with taking financial risks. In relationships, we can apply this concept to gauge our emotional risk profile, assessing how open and vulnerable we are with...
I’m done
If you are a woman 40 years or older, you will appreciate the meaning behind these words. If you are a man and have heard these words, you are also very much aware of what happens once these words leave a woman’s mouth. Having a career as a therapist, I can...
People Have It All Wrong When It Comes to Relationships
How often do you hear, “We don’t know how to communicate,” or “We’re having trouble communicating”? I hear it from clients constantly - and I’m tired of it. There’s a big difference between just communicating and communicating effectively. Sure, you can shout at each...
Give Yourself The Many Blessings You Deserve
If you are anything like me, when I think about blessings, I would never think of such a thing as ‘self-blessings'. Being Christian, the only person by whom I might be blessed would be a priest, minister, etc. However, self-blessings are not only a vital part of our...
Finding Balance Using Allostasis vs. Homeostasis
When I think about physical and mental wellness, I like to think about prevention. This post may start off unrelated, but stick with me because it has everything to do with work-life balance and how we can all do better at managing mental strain, worry, and anxiety. I...
If You’re Not Where You Want to Be, Check Where You’re Spending Your Time
We often hear that actions speak louder than words. But when was the last time you consciously changed a behavior and saw real results? For me, it started with evaluating how I spent my time. Time management is critical, yet it’s something many of us struggle to...
How Our Feelings Directly Relate to Our Identity
One day, while cycling and reflecting on some of my clients' struggles, I had a realization: how we feel at any given moment is closely tied to how we identify ourselves. Think about it: if you're feeling happy while throwing a fabulous party for your spouse or child,...
35 Ways To Ensure Your Marriage Eventually Ends
Here is my version of a humourous attempt to guide couples away from conflict and towards peace. I want to expand your relationship mindset by incorporating strategic preventative measures in order to build a sound business, similarly as a CEO would want to accomplish...