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Luella’s pened thoughts on topics relating to emotional fullfillment and personal achievement. New posts weekly.
Rely More on Your Heart and Soul (Spirituality) Than Your Head (Psychology)
We often consider therapy the first step to finding happiness and fulfillment, or we turn to self-help books when we want to become better people. None of this is wrong. Heck, I have a library of self-help books, which did help—to some extent.
March is for Sex
Now, before you get excited like bunnies in the springtime, I anticipate that you may be somewhat disappointed with what I have to say about sex as an act of love, especially if you are a man.
Virtuous Living Within Marriage
Marriage: The Teacher of Virtue Marriage doesn’t gently nudge us toward patience, humility, or self-restraint—it shoves us into moments where we must practice them. And in those moments, when we choose virtue over vice, something shifts—not just in our marriages but...
What It Truly Means To Love
With Valentine’s Day now past, the roses start to droop ever so slightly, and lovely dinners and decadent chocolates have now formed a nice bit of cushioning around our hips and bellies, let’s talk a bit about the word LOVE. Up until last year, in 2024, I mainly...
Characteristics To Look for in a Good Partner
Here are the four characteristics I feel are important to embody to be a good partner: Humility, Curiosity, Emotional Wellness, and a keen awareness of your Absolute Values. I will use the analogy of a house when referencing these traits. (I am no builder - but I love...
The Trajectory of Most Relationships: From Great to Not So Great
I have given a lot of thought to this subject. I have read countless books and articles on what makes relationships last. I was trained by the Gottmans and delved into the works of John Gray (interviewing him three times on the Mixing Business With Pleasure Podcast),...
The Key To Staying Happy
It just occurred to me that all we need to be happy can be distilled down to two things.
Curiosity – The Most Overlooked Tool To Mend Relationships
One warm beautiful night this past summer, I found myself lying on the dock, gazing up at the stars. I felt so small—just a speck of nothing amongst a much greater realm. It suggested getting out of myself, my needs, and my desires. Losing myself in the vastness above...
Who Are You?
It’s a simple question, yet most of us would struggle to answer it—whether asked by a dear friend, relative, or therapist. It’s a bit like being asked, “What do you want?” For many, the response is the same: a blank stare. I know that because I ask my clients these...