Conversations with Gottman Therapist Winnipeg
Here you will find conversations on topics that matter: nutrition, stress, sleep, relationships, movement, and, my favourite topic, habits...
How Competitiveness Sucks Joy From Relationships
When we think about the word competitive or describe someone as competitive in nature, I doubt that the first thing you think of is how this can be a red flag in regards to relationships. However, it is quite common for me to have couples coming to see me with...
When Your Partner Craves a Substance More Than He Craves You
If you are someone who has been in a committed relationship in which your partner is struggling with substance abuse or misuse, you will certainly relate to the words on this page. No one wants to compete for attention with a drug or behaviour, whether it be cocaine,...
Resentment
Build-up of resentment is extremely common in any relationship. The problem is that it will never go away unless you bring your attention to it. You need to get rid of it before it creates a wall between you and your partner. If years go by with built-up resentment,...
Why You Cannot Push Past Perpetual Problems in Relationships
Most couples in a long-term relationship will be able to list at least one perpetual problem to which they seem to never find a solution. There is usually an ‘underlying current’ streaming below the relationship that is the basis for the conflicts. For example, one...
What Body Shaming Does for You
I took a photo of the tree in this post this past weekend at our lakeside cottage. While looking at the tree's curvature, I couldn't help to notice it was different. But what really struck me was how a tree can grow as it did on the rock. How beautiful nature really...
Feeling Joyless
Many women enter my room describing how they hit a roadblock in their journey through life in which they feel joyless. Life has become vanilla. Day in and day out they go through their routines by switching from one hat to the other: mother, daughter, aunt, wife,...
Unstable Relationships
When asked to describe your relationship, would you be inclined to say “When we are good, we are really, really, good. When we are bad, we are really, really bad.”? When I hear this from my clients, I know their relationship needs serious repair. I suspect you are...
What Do You Think of When You Hear the Word Cancer?
I feel a lot of different emotions, and meanwhile various thoughts dance through my head. Thoughts such as…Oh gosh, now who?Please, you are kidding me…I don’t feel safe.When will there be a cure?Not again! Emotions include…Fear. Sadness. Grief. Worry. Humility. Shock....
The Universe is Always Working With You: Will You Work With It? | Part 2
If you recall from Part 1 of this post (look at the prior post from last week), you have the choice all day, every single day, in how you see yourself, think of yourself, and believe in yourself. This will literally change your molecular structure! And this brings in...