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Luella’s pened thoughts on topics relating to emotional fullfillment and personal achievement. New posts weekly.
Resentment
I want to specifically speak about how resentment in relationships is not only tortuous towards your marriage but to yourself. It is very common to have couples coming to see me after years of built-up resentment. Can you mend a relationship after years of resentment?...
Emotional Affair
Many of us would love to call ourselves trustworthy, but are we? And do we trust our partners? Do we even trust ourselves? What if we find ourselves one day discovering that we have stepped into the chasm of betrayal by our partner. Now what? Would it be a deal...
Welcome to my blog
My room is a place where you will learn to build better relationships, change habits and get rid of anxiety. So much of how we manage our lives is based on habits. Habits of thought turn into habits of action and behaviour. Chances are you came to my site because you...
I Start to Spiral
I hear the following often: ' and then I start to spiral'. In summary, women are telling me that they find themselves in a helpless and uncontrollable position. They tell me their mind takes over and thus so do their behaviours. The behaviours that follow are not...
You Can’t Talk Your Spouse out of an Addiction
If your partner is struggling with drug abuse, normally just talking to him or her isn't enough. I see it over and over that partners seem to live on 'hope' for so long before finally being able to draw a line in the sand. Normally separation unfolds. Whether or not...
Having Difficult Conversations are Necessary in a Relationship
Many of us feel the need to play it safe. We don't want to 'rock the boat'. The problem with this is that your relationship stays stagnant. I would say that 80% of couples come to me stating they have difficulty communicating to one another. Stepping into safety by...
How to Attract a Partner Who Wants What You Want
At some time in our lives, we have gone through the process of trying to figure out why this person broke up with us. We go through the last few interactions with this person (if it was a new relationship), and question if it was something you said, or didn’t say, did...
Being Judgemental of Yourself and Others
Do you sometimes catch yourself saying words like ‘ I don’t get why he is so ….’ Or ‘ if he could only be …’. If you do, stop yourself right there and ask yourself these questions instead: What could I have said instead to not have made our discussion go south? What...
Discovering the root cause of a physical or mental dis-ease is always the first step.
From there on we look forward, we don’t stay fixed on the past. For example, in the applied science of engineering, we use knowledge to design, analyze, and construct for practical purposes. When the titanic sank to the bottom of the sea, the engineers didn’t sit...