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Luella’s pened thoughts on topics relating to emotional fullfillment and personal achievement. New posts weekly.
Characteristics To Look for in a Good Partner
Here are the four characteristics I feel are important to embody to be a good partner: Humility, Curiosity, Emotional Wellness, and a keen awareness of your Absolute Values. I will use the analogy of a house when referencing these traits. (I am no builder - but I love...
The Trajectory of Most Relationships: From Great to Not So Great
I have given a lot of thought to this subject. I have read countless books and articles on what makes relationships last. I was trained by the Gottmans and delved into the works of John Gray (interviewing him three times on the Mixing Business With Pleasure Podcast),...
The Key To Staying Happy
It just occurred to me that all we need to be happy can be distilled down to two things.
Curiosity – The Most Overlooked Tool To Mend Relationships
One warm beautiful night this past summer, I found myself lying on the dock, gazing up at the stars. I felt so small—just a speck of nothing amongst a much greater realm. It suggested getting out of myself, my needs, and my desires. Losing myself in the vastness above...
Who Are You?
It’s a simple question, yet most of us would struggle to answer it—whether asked by a dear friend, relative, or therapist. It’s a bit like being asked, “What do you want?” For many, the response is the same: a blank stare. I know that because I ask my clients these...
The Gifts of Self-Acceptance and Self-Awareness
Rather than striving to “reinvent” yourself as part of the popular New Year, New You strategy that everyone seems to be pushing, I encourage you to simply accept yourself for who you are. However, before you can do that, you must first gain a deeper awareness of who...
Drop the Hurt and Resentment
In a society that often encourages us to feel our feelings, I worry we sometimes spend too much time feeling hurt.
Questions to Ask Your Partner To Cultivate a Deeper Connection
This exercise was created to go along with my Relationship Reset Questionnaire.
Assumptions, Judgement and Gift Giving
Gift-giving goes all year round. It is not confined to Christmas, yet I felt compelled to write about it during the Christmas season. As a therapist, it is very important for me…