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Luella’s pened thoughts on topics relating to emotional fullfillment and personal achievement. New posts weekly.
If You’re Not Where You Want to Be, Check Where You’re Spending Your Time
We often hear that actions speak louder than words. But when was the last time you consciously changed a behavior and saw real results? For me, it started with evaluating how I spent my time. Time management is critical, yet it’s something many of us struggle to...
How Our Feelings Directly Relate to Our Identity
One day, while cycling and reflecting on some of my clients' struggles, I had a realization: how we feel at any given moment is closely tied to how we identify ourselves. Think about it: if you're feeling happy while throwing a fabulous party for your spouse or child,...
35 Ways To Ensure Your Marriage Eventually Ends
Here is my version of a humourous attempt to guide couples away from conflict and towards peace. I want to expand your relationship mindset by incorporating strategic preventative measures in order to build a sound business, similarly as a CEO would want to accomplish...
Therapy vs. Coaching
I always aim to simplify, not because I believe my readers need it, but because simplicity is essential in many areas of my life. Whether it’s the size of my home, the food I prepare, the clothes in my closet, or how I spend my time, simplicity keeps me grounded. When...
Trust 101
I am passionate about this topic and always will be because trust lays the foundation for any good relationship. John and Julie Gottman use the image of a house to describe relationships. The house's foundation represents how well the partners know and love each...
How To Establish A Rock-Hard Friendship With God
Before you dismiss this conversation because you think it doesn't pertain to you, especially if you’re not religious, I ask you to hang in there. Give me a chance to show you that this topic relates to many, even those who don’t consider themselves religious. If you...
The Role Emotion Plays In Heterosexual Relationships
Lately, I have become particularly interested in studying men and their emotions. Perhaps it is because I am not one - a man that is - and therefore they are somewhat mysterious to me. Like how a biologist might study unknown species in nature, studying their...
Why Being Lucky Is Not the Same as Being Blessed
Often, I hear the terms "lucky" and "blessed" used interchangeably, but they are not the same. To be lucky is a matter of happenstance, while to be blessed involves much more than mere chance. I understand that not everyone reading this will agree, and that’s okay. As...
Understanding Men’s Inability to Express Emotions
There is a personality classification used in psychology to describe men, known as normative male alexithymia. The term means a male’s inability to feel their emotions. To further define, “Alexithymia, also called emotional blindness, is a neuropsychological...