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Luella’s pened thoughts on topics relating to emotional fullfillment and personal achievement. New posts weekly.
Reflecting Back on Your Relationship
You will note stages, but I am not talking about 1. we got married, 2. bought a house, 3. had kids...that is all sequential and doesn't require memory, recall, or feelings. I mean something much more meaningful:1. The first time you felt hurt deeply by your partner...
Drawing a Line in the Sand
I prefer this phrase when referring to setting limits in personal relationships over the term boundary. I am not sure why exactly; I think it is because boundary sounds so divisive. There is too much division in the world already, we don't need more. To me, boundary...
Helping Women Regain Power
I was inspired to write this post after reading an excerpt from the Bloomberg Report that stated just two women were among this year's 14 Nobel prize winners. This is yet another example of how women remain underrepresented in the world's most prestigious science...
Rapid Transformational Therapy or Hypnotherapy
This is a topic I rarely bring up in my office. Let me explain to you what it is exactly and who is the best candidate for it. I think you will find it interesting, so please read on. I first came across the notion of becoming trained in hypnotherapy in 2017, when I...
Ahh… to dream…
Once we hit puberty, it seems as if we are no longer allowed to dream. Goodbye childhood awe...hello reality. No more Santa, flying horses and Never Neverland. And romance??? Silly girl, there is no such thing as romance... That is only in the movies and books....
What Losing Yourself as a Woman Means to Me
I believe most women can relate to a time when they lost the essence of who they are or what they stand for due to their external situation. We begin to struggle and doubt ourselves and allow for the separation to continue; the division within ourselves. We move away...
Thinking Less and Feeling More
Have you ever heard of the term ' what resists persists'? If someone tells you that you cannot have something, that is all you want. If you are trying to think of a word, it will not enter your mind. You cannot 'will' it away. When one focuses too much on thought, and...
Most couples think it is about communication
Most couples think it is about communication. ' I need you to talk to me' or ' I need you to tell me you love me'. 'I need you to text me to ask me how I am feeling or how my day is going.' Do you understand what is wrong with those statements? The words " I need" are...
Healing from Affairs
I love John Gottman’s work on betrayals in general, but especially in relation to non-sexual betrayal, or what many of you might call emotional betrayal. He makes it super simple to distinguish between what is platonic and what is not. There is no such thing as a...