I often get asked the question, if I am searching for a therapist, what is the most important thing to keep in mind? Here is my advice. There is no ‘one most important thing.’ I could tell you that connection is the most important thing, but being deeply connected may...
You will note stages, but I am not talking about 1. we got married, 2. bought a house, 3. had kids…that is all sequential and doesn’t require memory, recall, or feelings. I mean something much more meaningful:1. The first time you felt hurt deeply by your...
I prefer this phrase when referring to setting limits in personal relationships over the term boundary. I am not sure why exactly; I think it is because boundary sounds so divisive. There is too much division in the world already, we don’t need more. To me,...
Have you ever heard of the term ‘ what resists persists’? If someone tells you that you cannot have something, that is all you want. If you are trying to think of a word, it will not enter your mind. You cannot ‘will’ it away. When one focuses...
I hear the following often: ‘ and then I start to spiral’. In summary, women are telling me that they find themselves in a helpless and uncontrollable position. They tell me their mind takes over and thus so do their behaviours. The behaviours that follow...
