I prefer this phrase when referring to setting limits in personal relationships over the term boundary. I am not sure why exactly; I think it is because boundary sounds so divisive. There is too much division in the world already, we don’t need more. To me,...
I was inspired to write this post after reading an excerpt from the Bloomberg Report that stated just two women were among this year’s 14 Nobel prize winners. This is yet another example of how women remain underrepresented in the world’s most prestigious...
Have you ever heard of the term ‘ what resists persists’? If someone tells you that you cannot have something, that is all you want. If you are trying to think of a word, it will not enter your mind. You cannot ‘will’ it away. When one focuses...
Most couples think it is about communication. ‘ I need you to talk to me’ or ‘ I need you to tell me you love me’. ‘I need you to text me to ask me how I am feeling or how my day is going.’ Do you understand what is wrong with those...
I love John Gottman’s work on betrayals in general, but especially in relation to non-sexual betrayal, or what many of you might call emotional betrayal. He makes it super simple to distinguish between what is platonic and what is not. There is no such thing as a...
