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Luella’s pened thoughts on topics relating to emotional fullfillment and personal achievement. New posts weekly.
People Have It All Wrong When It Comes to Relationships
How often do you hear, “We don’t know how to communicate,” or “We’re having trouble communicating”? I hear it from clients constantly - and I’m tired of it. There’s a big difference between just communicating and communicating effectively. Sure, you can shout at each...
Give Yourself The Many Blessings You Deserve
If you are anything like me, when I think about blessings, I would never think of such a thing as ‘self-blessings'. Being Christian, the only person by whom I might be blessed would be a priest, minister, etc. However, self-blessings are not only a vital part of our...
Finding Balance Using Allostasis vs. Homeostasis
When I think about physical and mental wellness, I like to think about prevention. This post may start off unrelated, but stick with me because it has everything to do with work-life balance and how we can all do better at managing mental strain, worry, and anxiety. I...
If You’re Not Where You Want to Be, Check Where You’re Spending Your Time
We often hear that actions speak louder than words. But when was the last time you consciously changed a behavior and saw real results? For me, it started with evaluating how I spent my time. Time management is critical, yet it’s something many of us struggle to...
How Our Feelings Directly Relate to Our Identity
One day, while cycling and reflecting on some of my clients' struggles, I had a realization: how we feel at any given moment is closely tied to how we identify ourselves. Think about it: if you're feeling happy while throwing a fabulous party for your spouse or child,...
35 Ways To Ensure Your Marriage Eventually Ends
Here is my version of a humourous attempt to guide couples away from conflict and towards peace. I want to expand your relationship mindset by incorporating strategic preventative measures in order to build a sound business, similarly as a CEO would want to accomplish...
Therapy vs. Coaching
I always aim to simplify, not because I believe my readers need it, but because simplicity is essential in many areas of my life. Whether it’s the size of my home, the food I prepare, the clothes in my closet, or how I spend my time, simplicity keeps me grounded. When...
Trust 101
I am passionate about this topic and always will be because trust lays the foundation for any good relationship. John and Julie Gottman use the image of a house to describe relationships. The house's foundation represents how well the partners know and love each...
How To Establish A Rock-Hard Friendship With God
Before you dismiss this conversation because you think it doesn't pertain to you, especially if you’re not religious, I ask you to hang in there. Give me a chance to show you that this topic relates to many, even those who don’t consider themselves religious. If you...