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Luella’s pened thoughts on topics relating to emotional fullfillment and personal achievement. New posts weekly.
Trust 101
I am passionate about this topic and always will be because trust lays the foundation for any good relationship. John and Julie Gottman use the image of a house to describe relationships. The house's foundation represents how well the partners know and love each...
How To Establish A Rock-Hard Friendship With God
Before you dismiss this conversation because you think it doesn't pertain to you, especially if you’re not religious, I ask you to hang in there. Give me a chance to show you that this topic relates to many, even those who don’t consider themselves religious. If you...
The Role Emotion Plays In Heterosexual Relationships
Lately, I have become particularly interested in studying men and their emotions. Perhaps it is because I am not one - a man that is - and therefore they are somewhat mysterious to me. Like how a biologist might study unknown species in nature, studying their...
Why Being Lucky Is Not the Same as Being Blessed
Often, I hear the terms "lucky" and "blessed" used interchangeably, but they are not the same. To be lucky is a matter of happenstance, while to be blessed involves much more than mere chance. I understand that not everyone reading this will agree, and that’s okay. As...
Understanding Men’s Inability to Express Emotions
There is a personality classification used in psychology to describe men, known as normative male alexithymia. The term means a male’s inability to feel their emotions. To further define, “Alexithymia, also called emotional blindness, is a neuropsychological...
Breaking Stereotypes: The Risks of Pressuring Men into Emotional Expression
Sorry, it’s a bit long, but it is worth it. Men’s inability to express themselves could be one of the top complaints of women seeking counsel on their relationships. My answer to them is always the same. Be careful what you wish for. If you have read my blog for some...
The Two Ways Humans Operate: One Gets Results, The Other Gets You A Hug At Best
Not every conversation advocates for problem-solving or open displays of vulnerability. The only conversations that advocate for these behaviours are those in which change needs to happen. At the business level, management requests a specific performance output....
The Importance of Consistency In Therapy
If I told you the best way to improve your golf game was to get on the course daily or to learn a new language was to speak it daily, you likely wouldn’t blink an eye at those suggestions and possibly respond to me with kindness as you answered: “No kidding, Captain...
Hold Your Ground: The Balance Between Individuality and the Collective
There are various reasons why many individuals report struggling with anxiety. One of the main causes is that of identity. We have certainly seen this through the varied expressions of sexuality and gender. What was once either or, is now placed on a spectrum....